The cat and mouse chase between the good guys verses the bad guys are oblivious when shown in the cartoon where children see the bad guys dressed in black, good guys are in hippy colored clothes like ‘Scooby Doo, Rocky & Bullwinkle and Smurfs’ as years went on, more details stories through animation puts in a more sinister twists like ‘X-men, Thundercats or Batman & Beyond’ that took a new turn of what being bad can be twisted into manipulation, lies and deceit. Yet we can still tell who the ‘good’ guys are from the ‘bad’ ones, the sad reality is that in the real world, it isn’t so easy to recognize.
As the words of a popular artist, Everlast once said, “I’ve seen a rich man beg, I’ve seen a good man sin, I’ve seen a tough man cry, I’ve seen a loser win, And a sad man grin, I heard an honest man lie, I’ve seen the good side of bad, And the down side of up, And everything between.” It’s true, nothing is ever consistently good or consistently evil either, maybe that explains why science has figured out why most of the population has become bi-polar? I’m not psychologist, but it does make you wonder. I have seen a lot in my life and though if I could turn back the hands of time, that was my wish, now I look back and realize everything is where it should be. I don’t believe in God the way the bible is written, the God of my understanding and I, well we have our own special relationship. My God have saved me from multiple attempts of suicide, saved me from several rape situations and also saved me from being murdered, but most of all he saved me from turning into the very people I despised most, traffickers.
The world of illicit trade isn’t so black and white as most people would believe it, if I told you any suspicions that I had or what I have seen I know I will have my line of haters, unbelievers and those who are diehard fans of our government and that’s fine, cause your insults do not scare me one bit, but if I could challenge you to think about this; if you can’t believe people are literally buying a child or an infant for sex, then why do you believe that sex offenders exist? You can’t believe half the truth and then say the possibility isn’t there? Sure I have my bias moments as well, I personally do not believe in giving aggravated sex offenders a human way to be punished, I do believe an eye for an eye, especially when it comes to a child or an infant or anyone who is vulnerable.
My point is this, when you feel the need to “preach” to anyone what is trafficking/pimping or you are going to a conference that is about that topic, do not be so naive to believe those very people you are warning about, aren’t there either, because they are. Criminals have become very smart, unlike the cartoons we may have grown up with, they aren’t stupid. I will admit I’ve seen and heard stories of idiots, but a true criminal, is highly intelligent. What my hope is in the near future is to step away from the whole, “Chong Kim’s story” and start doing something training and work. I want to do workshops with; law enforcement, social workers, activist, law students and schools. People who’ve never been trafficked, I don’t mean to discredit you, but you can read all the text, true crime stories or watch an unlimited of CSI or Law & Order shows, but until you have come face to face with their MO, their smell, their demeanor, character, persona(s) and have lived with them, eat with them, breath with them, then you honestly cannot offer insights that us survivors can, but what you can do is bring us into a movement so that we can decrease or prevent another person, child, woman, boy to be the next victim.
I never understood the segregation that we have created in this country; abolitionist who are survivors, feminist, academics, law enforcements and faith base, it’s time to eliminate the segregation and work together to end this vicious cycle, if you truly want to end this you must come prepared with an open mind and the willingness to learn all aspects, if you come in with an assumption you will walk out with only crumbs of information. I don’t share graphic sexual details to children, but let’s quit with the naïve-ness when you hesitate to invite me to your Congregation, Church, Schools of Jr. High or High School, what you think your children have NOT heard, I guarantee you they have and if I’m wrong, trust me what I tell them will save their life. That is a GUARANTEE. If you think I am ignorant to talk about sex to a 6 year old, you have no idea who I am, but I will to a 12 year old girl/boy; did you know there are 10 year old children giving oral sex to each other and was told that was not “sex” so they thought it was okay? Did you know pre-teens are taking birth control because the older kids told them it would protect them from STD and HIV? If you didn’t know, I believe it’s time for me to come and talk to your family, church or school. Remember, DENIAL is the number one killer in our children today.
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